Sucking the Life Out

Whenever I feel bad, I want to touch my husband. It always makes me feel better. But if he knows I’m not feeling up, he says it feels like I am trying to suck the life out of him. It’s made me a lot less likely to reach for him, good or bad, because I know he doesn’t feel comfortable with it.

But now at least I know I’m not the only person who feels better after holding hands or some other physical contact…

The Washington Times has an article that says:

A touch of her husband’s hand is one of the most effective ways to calm and comfort a woman, said University of Virginia psychologist Jim Coan, who looked inside the brains of 16 wives to discover that yes, hubby held the key to their peace of mind.

Using magnetic resonance imaging, Mr. Coan found that women under stress who hold their husbands’ hands show signs of “immediate relief,” with a powerful decrease in threat-related brain activity. What’s more, the better the marriage, the better the relief.

They also referenced two other studies which have shown that women get positive benefits out of marriage.

Women in satisfying marriages have a distinct health advantage over single or unhappily married women, according to an American Psychological Association study that found that solid marriages benefit blood pressure, cholesterol and other cardiovascular factors.

The “bliss of a steady marriage” is also a strong antidote to a life of crime, a University of Florida study found.

It doesn’t say what benefit men get out of the whole thing, but I would expect that there would be some. I guess they’ll have to do more studies for that.

Thanks to All Things Conservative for pointing in the right direction.