No, not mine. I got a call from an admin up at the college. “The parking at your campus will be non-existent today due to a party scheduled there. Do you want us to call your students and cancel class?” I talked to the admin for a while and then said, “I guess we could just put a sign on the door to let my students know class is being cancelled.” “You're CANCELLING class!!! Why would you do that?”
People are just plain scary. I am going to go to class, maybe not get a parking place, and my students won't get one. Because an admin who suggested I cancel class had a cow about it when I agreed to do that. I wonder what this admin thinks of the math teacher who has missed more than 8 classes out of 16 in the last two months. Or does she care? Why is she messing with me? Why would she call and suggest cancelling class and then have a fit about the idea?
When we all started getting married years and years ago, we agreed to a simple Christmas/Thanksgiving plan. We would go to in-laws for one holiday and our parents for one holiday and then switch the next year. We've all been doing that for years.
Except my youngest sister. Her husband somehow (on purpose) always manages to plan something they “just can't miss” on the family holidays she is supposed to be with our family. Last year it was a trip to Mexico. This year it is a trip to her in-laws, since his mother is having surgery. But he has plenty of money. They could have flown in on Tday or after. He has plenty of vacation. They could have gone the next week. But they aren't.
My mom is furious and hurt. She says she isn't going to plan anymore family get-togethers. I told her it wasn't fair to punish the rest of us because M is such a control freak. S feels it is safer/easier to disappoint all of us than to tell M no. I think that's a bit scary. I love R to death, but if he were doing something like that I'd say, “Fine. Go visit. I'm going to my parents' like we said we would.”
My brother made his reservations only after making sure my sister was really going to be here. My middle sister made her reservations three months ago and made sure that M knew that she was coming and expected to see S for Thanksgiving.
All I can say is M is a jerk. If it would not make life worse for S, I would call and talk to him about rescheduling the trip. But I guess it would make it worse.
Where I live now no one is on time to church or parties. If you are invited over to someone's house, you show up 15 minutes late. If it's a party, you show up even later.
I don't remember this growing up. We were always on time everywhere.
Is this lateness normal or fashionable where you live? I would really like to know. Does anyone know if it is a new phenomenon?
Reuters has a study in which 17th and 18th century passages, referring to nice guys and cads were read. Then college age women were asked whether they would marry or have sex with the guys. Most appeared to say they'd marry the nice guys and sleep, short term, with the jerk. This, says the authors, proves that women are genetically engrained for these choices. I'm thinking that maybe not. For years and years whoever you slept with was your partner or you had the potential not to marry anyone. You were “ruined.” I think that the sexual revolution has a lot to do with the choices the women made.
I do think that a nice guy makes a better husband. And the sex is great too.