What is sexy?

Read a blog comment on Reactuate about what is sexy. He's trying to define what guys think is sexy. He came up with the idea that good looking woman + high respect toward the guy= sexy.

I want to talk about what girls find sexy. Since I am a girl, I think I can address this issue. Looks are good. However, like guys who prefer different types, women also have different preferences. My husband is a tall skinny guy with light brown hair. He's not the kind of guy I automatically think is sexy. My looks preference is for darker skin, black hair, and dark eyes. But just because a guy looks gorgeous, doesn't mean I find him sexy. I think a lot of it relates to how they act, too. The most gorgeous guy on the planet who smokes is not sexy to me. I hate smoking. Or if he's rude. Or if he disses his lady.

Looks are not the only determiner of sexy for women. I like nice biceps and tight rounded butts, but I've known plenty of people without those who I found sexy. If he talks to me, maybe flirts, if he is polite, if he seems genuinely interested in me… All those things are sexy. If he works hard at being a loving husband and/or father, I find that sexy. In the old days (back when I was single), the way he touched me or invaded my space also made a determination on sexy.

I found a series of posts attempting to define sexy. It mentions looks and attitude.

A funny site about University of Florida's sexiest male teachers. There were female teachers nominated, but they declined the honor. I guess they didn't want to have info about them on the net? Or maybe they didn't want to feed into the whole stereotype thing?

I think it's a sales place, but this site talks about sexy clothes and sexy being having confidence in yourself.

I found a couple of other post links, that mostly had nothing to say. One did say “confidence without having a superior attitude appreciating everything, not just the exterior laugh lines.”

An interesting site about what Ethiopian males do to try to look attractive and one person's response to that list.

This article is about how more and more older women are getting younger guys. (I already knew that. I'm 3 years older than hubby.) But it also defines sexy in the article, which is why it popped up when I googled “define sexy.” This article says it's looking like they can still have healthy kids. Hmmm. Think I am beyond that now.

Getting Respect

Even though the head says all my students have been raised to be respectful and know what it means to have respectful behavior, I gave my students a nine-point lecture anyway. I covered obvious things, such as being called by my title rather than my first name and not calling other students pejorative terms. I discussed less-obvious things like gossiping in class. I also discussed the grade reprecussions for an extended or group inability to stay on topic.

Class today was much quieter than it normally is. I don't mind them talking, as long as it is on topic. Apparently they realized how little of what they wanted to say was on topic.

I did add the lectures to the schedule for my English 11 class. Some of them weren't taking notes. After I told them to take them. Apparently they had decided that all I was doing was reading the introduction the book gave for information and that they could just read the book later and not listen or take notes. When someone did ask about that, I explained that these lecture notes were not from the book but from outside research I had done. I did mention these will be on the mid-term.

I started off giving all my classes too little homework. I like them to do a lot in class. But I think I haven't given enough homework and I may be expecting them to do too much in class. I may start shifting things from class to home. I don't want them to have too little to do but one student wrote that they “don't have time to breathe.”

Motorcycle Races

Went to the races yesterday in Aggieland (College Station, TX). Recommendations: bring fold-up chairs, radio, your own food, and binoculars.

It was fun, even though half the time I didn't know what was going on. We got good seats and it was cool and covered.